Get creative with your vow renewal style! There are no rules, so do it your way!
Figure out what suits you and your spouse and go with it. It’s really as simple as that! Toss out the traditional wedding party rules where brides asked their best gal pals to be bridesmaids, and grooms asked their male buddies to be groomsmen or keep them if you wish. Have no attendants, only children, or just your children. Ask other couples you’re friends with to be in your vow renewal party. Follow your vision and your hearts and choose whom and how many you want as a couple, without concern for gender or equal numbers, and you can’t get it wrong.
Once you have your attendants selected, follow our tips to managing your creative attendant selections and everyone will walk up and down the aisle with ease.
Chances are, as a couple everyone in your vow renewal party is a friend to both of you, so where they stand on shouldn’t be a big issue. If you have a significant variance in the number of male and female attendants selected by each spouse, be flexible and balance them out or have them stand in a full or half circle. For example, you can put all the guys on the husband’s side and all the girls on the wife’s side, regardless of who wanted them to be in the vow renewal party. Or you can mix them up on both sides. Whatever makes the most sense and means the most to you. If having attendants stand in same-sex lines doesn’t seem like the right fit for your ceremony, have all of the attendants stand in a full or half circle, intermixing the men and women as desired. This is particularly nice if you are part of a large group of couples. You will be surrounded by your circle of friends as you renew your vows as you are in the rest of your life.
Oh what to have everyone wear! If the thought of matching head-to-toe attire fills you with dread, don’t do it. You can have elegance without being all matchy-matchy! Try picking two coordinating patterns or a fun pattern and color combo; then dress half of the women in each. Or, you can pick a single color palette and fabric and leave the selection up to them.
For formal vow renewals, here are some additional ideas:
- All female attendants, regardless of the side they are standing on can wear the same dress in the same color. Same goes to the male attendants concerning suits.
- The wife’s side wears one color, and the husband’s side wears a second color. These colors are applied to the dresses and ties and vest of the attendants on each side. For instance, the couple’s colors are yellow and green. The female attendant’s on the wife’s side wear yellow dresses, and the male attendants wear yellow ties with their black suits. The female attendant’s on the husband’s side wear green dresses, and the male attendants wear green ties with their black suits. Both sides wear the same dress and suit style.
- Female attendants on each side wear the same color of dress in different styles. Male attendant wear the same suits on both sides.
Your boutonnieres and bouquets don’t have to be all the same either. It might be fun to pick a single color and have each bouquet done in a different flower. You could also go with shades of a single color, such as a variety of pinks. For a fun and colorful option, have each bouquet done in a single different bright color such as hot pink, bright orange, red, bright yellow, royal purple, and brilliant blue or any combination thereof. Or have each female attendant carry a bouquet of one flower, while the your bouquet is comprised of all their flowers. Boutonnieres can also follow suit using different colors, flowers or shades of the same color.
Down the Aisle
Check to see if your house of worship or religion has requirements for the processional and recessional. Even if they do, check with the wedding coordinator to see if you can break with tradition. Chances are good you can. Attendants can walk down the aisle alone, in same-sex pairs, or mixed pairs. If you have a large difference in the number of men to women, go with single file! Consistency always looks best.
Pets can make a fun replacement for ring bearers, flower girls, or even escorts. If your dog or cat is up to playing dress up, it can be even more fun to include them. If they’re a little people shy, your pet can also make an appearing role of save-the-dates, escort cards, and even casual invitations.