Thoughts on preparations for a urban vow renewal without guests?

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Urban Vow Renewal IdeasQ. Do you have any additional thoughts on preparations for a urban vow renewal without guests?

A. An urban vow renewal for two can be quite romantic and delightful! Here are some ideas to get you moving in the right direction:

  • Pick a spot that you find particularly beautiful or holds significance in your relationship to have the ceremony. Since you’re not having guests, you shouldn’t need a permit (make a quick call ahead of time to check, though).
  • Pick a date to hold your ceremony and make sure the spot you’ve selected won’t be crowded that day.
  • Feel free to dress to the nines in a long gown and tuxedo or go simple with a short dress and suit.
  • Hire a single violinist to provide music to make the moment all the more intimate or make use of your mobile phone to provide background music.
  • Write your own vows and/or speak them from the heart.
  • You can opt to have an officiant preside over the ceremony or keep it ultimately private with just the two of you.
  • Follow up the ceremony with a quick dance to music provided by the violinist and then go to your favorite restaurant for an elaborate meal for two.
  • Wrap up the evening by staying in a luxurious hotel where you have had champagne and strawberries delivered to the room, and roses petals sprinkled on the bed. Complete your celebration with breakfast delivered by room service!
  • You might also hire a photographer to capture this special moment for you. Since you will have no guests, the photographer will be free to take some truly memorable shots of you and the ceremony.
2017-03-05T13:31:55-05:00Ask an Expert, Planning|


  1. MrsB July 19, 2016 at 1:05 pm - Reply

    My husband and I are planning to go to the Smokey Mountains and do a renewal just for the two of us. There are wedding packages available that make it so easy for us to do this. I just need a little tip. My husband wants a new wedding ring but I like mine just fine. What would be a good way to incorporate him getting a new ring? Should I look into getting an anniversary ring? Thank you so much!

    • Karie July 19, 2016 at 2:37 pm - Reply

      Congratulations on your upcoming vow renewal! Your plans sound wonderfully intimate and romantic. Getting a new ring for your husband can be a lovely way to celebrate your vow renewal. But, just because he’s getting a new ring, doesn’t mean you have to. If you’d like an anniversary band, they are a good option – so are cocktail rings. The gift you exchange doesn’t have to go on the same ring finger. Perhaps you’d like to have a different kind of gift to exchange during your ceremony in place of a ring? If you’ve had your eye on a necklace or bracelet, this is the perfect time to splurge! Both can easily take the place of a ring during your ceremony. Find something that suits your personal style today! There’s no need to limit yourself to “traditional” anniversary jewelry.

      Congratulations again to you both!
      Founder and Editor

    • Leigh August 20, 2017 at 1:14 pm - Reply

      Hi there! I’m curious what company you used for the wedding package for a private vow renewal?

      • Karie September 11, 2017 at 5:52 am - Reply

        We do not use a company, though many are available around the country.

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